Comments on: teens and sex : Oprah and Christianity Today

By: jankern

jankern — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 01:36:20 +0000

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By: jankern

jankern — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 04:38:00 +0000

That is a powerful formula, Diane–one that builds relationship and dialogue. I’ve met many parents who step way too carefully, afraid to offend their children–as if NOT saying anything would improve the relationship.

By: Diane Stortz

Diane Stortz — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 00:55:40 +0000

Is there an age when parents should stop having influence? I don’t think so. Influence is different than control. Parents of adult kids can tell them that we disagree with their choices and why (but do it without saying “you should…”), and we can find ways to communicate our love despite our feelings about a bad choice. Together with continued prayer for God to impact their lives, this is a powerful formula for having influence.

By: Jan Kern

Jan Kern — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:47:57 +0000

Great comment, Pam. I love your fire and conviction!

By: Pam Stenzel

Pam Stenzel — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 14:04:56 +0000

Scripture is clear…SEX is reserved for marriage…PERIOD. I think it is good to have the discussion Christianity Today (and many local religion sections of papers) have brought up about dating, courtship and early marriage, however the TRUTH REMAINS that WE ARE NOT ANIMALS at the mercy of our hormones (regardless of AGE or marital status) and that self discipline is a HUGE bonus throughout your life. As a married professional who spends ALOT of time on the road, minus my husband. I am forced to practice sexual self-discipline about HALF MY LIFE! Where does the integrity come from to remain sexually pure at 44? The same discipline that kept me sexually pure as a 20 year old bible college student! Many will be asked by God to remain sexually pure their ENTIRE LIVES! Is this an impossibility? What happened to “I can do ALL THINGS through Christ, who gives me the strength”?

In my opinion, this concept that we are INCAPABLE of controlling our sexuality just feeds into the WORLD’s LIES that are telling us we are LESS THAN VALUABLE if we are NOT sexually active or sexually atractive. I would much rather emmulate Mother Theresa than Britney Spears… thank you very much!!