Posted by jankern on July 9, 2009
The second book in the Live Free series has received a finalist nomination for the Christian Retailers Choice Awards in the Youth/Teen category. Winners will be announced this coming Monday, July 13, during the International Christian Retail Show (ICRS) in Denver.
An excerpt from the press release:
CINCINNATI – July 1, 2009 – Standard Publishing is pleased to recognize its two finalist nominations for the 2009 Retailers Choice Awards, which will be announced Monday, July 13, during the International Christian Retail Show (ICRS) in Denver. Author Jan Kern’s book Seduced by Sex: Saved by Love (2008), from Kern’s “Live Free” series, was nominated in the Youth/Teen category . . .
Seduced by Sex: Saved by Love, the second in the “Live Free” series for young adults, deals with sexual promiscuity. In each book in the series, Kern tells us the true account of a Christian teenager dealing with a serious problem or addiction. The story unfolds in chapters that read like a novel, interspersed with chapters offering wise counsel and help for struggling teens and those who love them.
In Seduced by Sex: Saved by Love, Kern introduces us to Suzy, who gave herself sexually to her first boyfriend, then lived increasingly promiscuously seeking popularity and acceptance until she nearly lost her life as she spiraled into despair.
This is the second honor for Kern, whose first book in the “Live Free” series, Scars that Wound: Scars that Heal (2007), about self-injury, was nominated in 2008 for Book of the Year by the Evangelical Christian Publishers Association. The third book in the series, Eyes Online: Eyes on Life (2008) is about Internet addictions.
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Posted by jankern on April 20, 2009
Take an American girl who has lived outside of the U.S. for a few years, reintroduce her back into this culture, and what you’ll get is an enlightening perspective of the crazy road we might be traveling down. Meredith Whitmore is a new writer for Plugged In Online. She wrote a three-part article—lengthy, but well-worth the reading—about what she has observed since returning to the U.S.
As you read her article, you might feel uncomfortable, even defensive at times—loyal to your country and the culture (U.S.) you’ve grown to enjoy. But hang in there to the end. You’ll chuckle. You’ll gasp. You’ll begin to see she could be on target. You might find yourself considering what you’ve bought into and didn’t need to . . . and the beginnings of a longing to once again enjoy simplicity, conversation, and realness.
She begins with:
I used to think I was a reasonably well-adjusted person. But then I had to move back to the United States.
Donning U.S. culture again felt like wearing a sweater that’s four sizes too small: I stuck out of it. I squirmed to make it fit. I felt beyond absurd. Different aspects of American life that had once felt normal now felt uncomfortable and—dare I say it—horrifying.
‘Culture Shock’ series, Plugged In Online, Meredith Whitmore
Take time to read. Understand her “shock.”
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Posted by jankern on April 10, 2009
Good Friday. It isn’t called that everywhere. Those in Germany call it Karfreitag, meaning Mourning Friday. Not surprising. God’s hand was raised against the darkness of sin that day long ago when Jesus was led to the cross. And it became a grievious day of loss for those who loved their friend and servant-master and did not yet understand this act of love as Immanuel–God in the flesh giving his life for us.
But that’s also when it becomes Good Friday as we realize that torturuous death was love’s redemption. We who were created in God’s image, created to be in relationship with him, could know the restoration of deep connection and intimacy with him.
I wrote about that day in Scars that Wound, Scars That Heal–A Journey Out of Self-Injury:
Jesus had come to earth to put on human skin to live, breathe, feel, and hurt like you and I do. He had crazy expectations thrown at him. He was spat on, misrepresented, and betrayed—sometimes by those he was closest to.
He then endured humiliation and whippings, a crown of thorns pressed onto his head, a heavy cross placed on his shoulders, and nails hammered into his wrists and feet. So many wounds you couldn’t count them. But each welt, gash, and bruise on Jesus’ body shouts ‘I love you’ and, if accepted, is a gift of freedom and healing.
Only Jesus, as God come to earth, had the power to bear scars that have the ability to reach deep into the hearts of people and heal the hidden pain they feel inside. That’s why another cut or another burn or another punch to the wall isn’t enough. ‘Another’ is never enough. But the wounds Jesus bore are. As he took his last breath on the cross, he said, ‘It is finished’ (John 19:30). Wrapped up in those words is the power of his wounds—Jesus’ completion of God’s plan to set right each person’s messed-up relationship with him and to make it possible for them to experience the depth of his love.
Scars That Wound, Scars That Heal–A Journey Out of Self-Injury, p. 117
Though you may not self-injure, you may be well acquainted with your own hidden pain. Over the next days, it will be my prayer that you will experience the ‘good’ of this weekend of celebration, the power of Jesus’ wounds, the depth of his love.
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Posted by jankern on March 28, 2009
What do you do when someone tells you they are self-injuring?
Most just want you to be there to listen, but realize that more often than not, they may share their story gradually. They’ll test the waters, see if they can trust you, but also if they can trust themselves to handle telling the story. Doing so may be difficult, painful, or shameful for them. For some, the anxiety they feel while even speaking about their struggle could trigger the compulsion to self-injure again.
More tips . . . Read the rest of this entry »
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Posted by jankern on March 27, 2009
Yesterday I spoke in a Youth Counseling class at William Jessup University. Part of what we talked about included the trends of self-injury and how those involved in youth organizations and ministries can best be aware of and help a teen who self-injures.
The class asked how you know someone is engaged in self-harming behavior. Typical signs might be the presence of frequent injuries, covering up with long sleeves and pants, multiple scars. You may notice a depressive mood. But self-injury is often secretive. It can even be hidden behind smiles and a life that seems, on the outside, to be going well. How do you widen your awareness? Read the rest of this entry »
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Posted by jankern on March 23, 2009
To offer hope to the hurting teen takes deep commitment, starting with what we do to be certain we have hope to give, the hope they need most.
1 Peter 3:15 says: “But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect” (NIV).
An invitation to give real hope is tucked into that verse. It’s not just about logically being able to talk about who Jesus is and his gospel of salvation. There’s another layer that is just as important . . . Read the rest of this entry »
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Posted by jankern on January 8, 2009
Just back from the Children’s Pastor’s Conference (INCM) that took place in Nashville, Tennessee. Patrick Snow (from SuperStart), Sean Sweet, and I did a preconference on preteen ministry, with my focus being, not surprisingly, the at-risk child or preteen. I was also able to give an additional workshop during the conference. I’ll be doing it again at CPC’s February conference in San Diego.
A few thoughts I shared during my workshops:
The stats we see for junior high/high school at-risk behavior are representative of life challenges that are likely already happening during the childhood/preteen years. To make an impact, we should act now, not later.
Our work and ministry to children and youth is most effective when we keep a pulse on the issues of today’s world and teen culture, especially in consideration of the individual and his or her personal questions and struggles.
Reaching the child, preteen, teen, or young adult involves caring about their family. We do that, at least partly, by developing a ministry philosophy that actively and practically nurtures the respect and communication between the members of the family, and nourishes the faith in that home.
In order to offer real purpose and hope to those we teach in our ministries or love in our homes and communities, we must daily go deeper in our relationship with Christ through prayer, reading God’s words, and intentionally living out what he shows us.
More to come, but I invite your thoughts. Let’s keep the dialog going.
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Posted by jankern on December 26, 2008
Connections. Deepening relationships. Choosing. Changing. Growing. Slowing down enough to think, to feel, to know I have purpose beyond daily existence. God matters to me. I matter to him. Others should matter to me.
An entire day can go by. When my connections consist primarily of digital activities, online friends, technology–how does that impact who I am as a person? What I take in of life or give out? Read the rest of this entry »
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Posted by jankern on December 12, 2008
During a radio interview yesterday morning, I heard a call-in’s story of being out with a friend who was constantly on his cell. Clearly frustrated, the call-in wondered what would come next in technology to further bring down the quality of relationships. How, he wanted to know, could he create a better situation with his friend?
On air we talked about having an honest conversation with his friend, coming up with the solution hopefully together; if needed, requesting that phones be turned off.
But this is also one of those opportunities for the holiday challenge mentioned in the last post. Compared to many, I probably use my cell phone rarely and struggle more with my online time. Still it wouldn’t hurt to evaluate my own habits and watch for any ways my cell use keeps me from fully enjoying the relationships of those I’m with.
Take a couple days to raise your awareness of how your cell phone use impacts your personal relationships. What would you be willing to reduce or change–for the next couple weeks or generally?
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Posted by jankern on December 11, 2008
This past summer, as I waited for a flight, I saw a family sitting on the floor near the window. I guessed that the five children were easily under ten, some closer to age five or six (might have been friends or cousins). All, including the parents, were either on a cell phone or playing a video game. Yes, one of the younger ones was on a cell phone. No conversation with one another at all. I wondered if that was unusual or typical–for this family and families in general.
Since at that time Eyes Online, Eyes On Life was close to its release date, my thoughts turned to teens and young adults who have grown up with computers, video games, cell phones. Even if they don’t own the latest technology, they know how to use it. “Technology” is close to a first language for them, and that’s not going to change.
But I continue to have a nagging question (potentially a hot button issue for some): How can we use technology differently (and maybe less) so that we’re connecting more to life, more with those around us? And why does that matter?
I see the approaching holidays as an opportunity for individuals and families to reduce time with their technology at least 25% (hours will vary!) and get creative with spending time with friends and family, enjoying an old pastime, or learning something new (and non-technological).
Over the next couple weeks I will be posting and twittering on this topic, adding thoughts and ideas and sharing those that others come up with (while at the same time reducing my own technology time by at least 25%).
Join me?
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or your local bookstore.
The second book in the Live Free series has received a finalist nomination for the Christian Retailers Choice Awards in the Youth/Teen category. Winners will be announced this coming Monday, July 13, during the International Christian Retail Show (ICRS) in Denver.
